I’m in the very early stages of coming out. Went to a LGBT Community Center to find a therapist and get involved in a group.

I am 51 years old, married to a woman for 25 and have 2 children ages 19 and 21. I have not come out to my family yet. It’s going to be very difficult.

I have confided in a guy that I kind of know. I don’t know him overly well but he travels in the same circles I do and we run into each other frequently. The second time I met him was at a (non gay) bar. I said hi and sat down at the bar. I just happened to look at him as he was walking downstairs and we were both looking right at each other. He’s always been very nice to me. I was at another bar a couple of weeks ago and he came in and I KNOW he looked right at me. A couple of days later we were at an event he I was surprised when he came right up to me and shook my hand.

I’m supposed to meet with him this week for support. This seems so ridiculous but I wonder if I should ask him if he’s interested. Trouble is he is 20 years younger. I don’t know how to read his intentions as friendship or something else. He did all this before I told him I was coming out. I’m concerned that if I ask him, it might freak him out. Advice?


  1. I wouldn’t try anything with him just yet. Work on you and your family first before getting involved with a guy.

    Have you ever been with a guy before?

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