I just installed Growlr last weekend. I’m 35. I’m not a virgin, but have only had sex (topped) with one guy. I’m inexperienced.
I got a lot of messages. I feel like I could arrange sex every night if I wanted to. But, for some reason, I’m just super nervous about pulling the trigger. I think it’s more about safety than my inexperience? It was honestly way more overwhelming than I expected. I feel so naive, which I hate.
Do people who use Growlr typically meet in public first? It kinda of seems like not. What’s the norm? I think I’m ok just hooking up without meeting first, but is that a bad idea? I’d really appreciate advice, thoughts, your experiences.
Also, guys are messaging me that I consider way hotter than me. It makes me sort of not trust them.
Also, because of my anti-depressant, I have never orgasmed with another person. I stay hard and usually stop topping when I get tired. What should I say and when should I say something about this? How many minutes of topping is considered respectable?
Really want to get out there and have a sex life for a change now that I’ve gotten through years of shame. But, kind of want the real rules of the land here.