I’m a 32 year old (white) gay guy and I have a lot of trouble with dating. It’s easy for me to actually get dates; I’m reasonably good-looking (not really athletic – I’m trying to get back in shape after a bad injury – but thin, decent body, well-endowed), smart – I’m doing my Phd at an Ivy League, I know more than seven languages, I can cook very well, I’m hard-working, I’m artistic & creative, funny, and kind. I’m also neuro-atypical and it’s almost physically painful for me to interact with people because I can’t read body language or emotions very well, but I fight it and keep trying because being alone is a different kind of really painful. On paper, I seem like a good catch, or so people say. Most people seem to like me. But every time I go on a date, the guy never wants a second date or just wants to be friends. I’m pretty convinced there is something wrong or off-putting about me, but I don’t know what it is. I’m having trouble with confidence – even the above list of qualities is mostly what friends say about me, besides objectively quantifiable stuff – I don’t monopolize conversations, and I’m mostly self-effacing; I don’t really talk about my achievements unless directly asked. I date guys of all races, body types, etc., so it’s not that I have a set of unreasonable expectations. My last two boyfriends said I was “too nice,” or “too good for them,” or other stuff which sounded like excuses. I deal with really bad depression, but basically no one knows unless I tell them. I realize it’s difficult to give this kind of advice without direct interaction, but I don’t really know what else to do.